So, it’s day two of the challenge, and I want to thank the lovely people who nominated me…this is giving me a chance to share something I wouldn’t have otherwise 🙂
Although we just “met”, having read (I hope I assume correctly) her quotes, I can tell she is optimistic, has a great sense of humour, and a wonderful zest for life 🙂
Nominator #2: Speaking Up For Myself
Sticking with my theme of Facebook quotes, I saw this one this morning.
“Stay low key. Not everyone needs to know everything about you.” (The Idealist)
I “shared” it to my page, with the following response:
Again, there is an ironic twist to my comment/response…for, it gives nothing away, but at the same time speaks volumes…especially if you know me…
I’m known for my effusiveness (I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve, I’m quite an an open book, and I’m often given to enthusiastic over-explanations).
This can be a very endearing trait, but I’ve also come to realize that, being an introvert at my core–and, given the nature of my job (social worker/mental health clinician (counsellor)–I need to moderate what I share/give away…otherwise, I don’t have enough time (in between) to replenish my emotional reserves when I’ve given too much of my heart and soul.
And, don’t get me wrong, I don’t mean that I feel emotionally-drained by the clients I’m privileged to serve…I am well aware of the need for boundaries where they are concerned.
I’m referring to aspects of my own vulnerabilities and sensitivities in my personal life….I’ve learned that I need to discern between who is curious, and who really cares….it makes me think of another quote I saw on Facebook some time ago–“Not everyone who smiles at you is your friend” (I can’t recall the author).
And, I hope this doesn’t sound cynical…it is just a reflection of my new-found understanding that–although I am very much a people person–I don’t have to embrace everyone as a close friend. I don’t always have to give my all to make sure others are cared for, satisfied, content, and comfortable…not when it comes at my expense. Not when they are incapable of–or disinclined–to be there for me when it counts.
I’ve had to work long and hard to establish protective boundaries….but, I am soooooo relieved to find that I have genuine connections with a small number of people who I want to share so much with…and who want to share so much with me. How precious…how wonderful.
So, while I am bubbly and effusive in general….people would be very, very surprised at what I do not say….and, that side of me is a side that you are now better acquainted with…my serious, introspective side…the side of me that is no longer as trusting as an enthusiastic puppy who is in love with the whole world…I am learning…I am growing…and, while I will always have a wonderful capacity for idealistic-optimism, it is–increasingly-tempered by a reserved wisdom.
How’s that for an over-explanation?
God bless you, Wonderfuls 🙂
P.S. I can’t tell you how much I love sharing with you…and how much I love you sharing with me…it fills me up in such satisfying ways 🙂
Nominations (these people are definitely friends, and have amazing blogs):
1. Doctor Jonathan