Context–Making the distinction between gullibility, gushability, and gush-ability:
In this moment, despite the knowing that–when I’m struggling, and vulnerable–I’ll be mortified that I made this public declaration…here goes….
I love that I’m brave enough to say that I admire my bravery 🙂
Can you relate?
Do you ever feel captive-hated by your insistent–if not incessant–drive to reclaim your best self…by your need to seek genuine connection, no matter what the cost?
…All while fearing you might give up when the pain of your elaborations and (burgeoning) personal-truths makes you feel so misguided and alone?
(The Dr. Seussian version of: never knowing when you’ll open too wide; have your unflinching-unGrinching heart fall out of your mouth; and, you’ll be left to stew in hot water that ‘s flavoured with oodles of chicken clue-dles…
AKA: A free-for- all serving of chicken-noodle oops!!!, followed by a (what-was-I-thinking?!) scaredy-brain drain.)
Have you ever wished you had a denser filter…a speak-bump to pull your enthusiasm up short when you’re squaring-for-a soul-baring at a most inopportune time…
and, with the wrong peerson(s)–a looky-loo whose mind closes at the realization that you are an open book …and, never, never, never a back cover meant to be Simply Read?
Have you ever been disillusioned when encountering inadvertent condescension?
(*Imagine a well-meaning triple-cluck of the tongue, a small, sad smile, and, a wag of the head as someone reminds you that, “Not everyone has the kind of heart you do”…and that “there is something about you, so right”–on at least 42 levels–but only in a world where people can consider/appreciate that there are 50 ways to leave your lover…
And this warning feels the way it sounds–like code for, “your gushability is stubborn gullibility”.*)
However, my contention is this…
Absent a dash of daring, misinterpretation of gush-ability (vs. gushability) is evidence of context taken out of context..
It’s like saying the sun is too sunny, or black is too dark…
These things, by their very definition, are exactly as they are meant to be….and, so too, with each of us…
We enter the world, exactly as we are…and, it is a misguided social construction/socialization that purports that we can be “too much of ourselves”–for the purposes of this post, defined as ‘saying too much from the heart’.
So, if you, too, have held on to the (once-upon-a-time) gift of wearing your (young-at-) heart on your sleeve
here’s an unending reprieve…
a return of the days when make-was-believe 🙂
Cheer(s) up, Wonderfuls!
What (merry)- goes-’round, comes around, and everything (g)old is you again
(Solid Gold, that is 🙂 ).
And, since reclamation of our forming glory calls for an ex-claim-ation hark, here it is…
“No more boring conforming; for you-nique is the new Norm…
The Time has come to party Hardy, Boys and girls!
Time to don your loudest
glow in the (Medow) lark
gettin’ down with your up self
“You better work…” shirt….
As always, thank you for listening, Fantastics 🙂 I pray this post finds you with much of your own things to gush about (even if, for now, your growing elaborations are secrets you tell yourself :))
God Bless You. 🙂
P.S. Weeks ago, I came across this video on my Facebook feed, “shared” it, and gushed about how it is the very definition of gush-ability….although, I hadn’t conceived of the word yet. I shared that–not only was I moved to tears–I bawled to the point that I was reduced to intense/inaudible weeping as I was flooded–on so many levels–with the abject beauty of it all…Carol King’s response is as heart-felt as it gets…President Obama’s immediate tears say so much…and, Aretha Franklin’s offering is the most astonishing gift I have ever witnessed…gush-ability at its finest!!!
However, I only used a fraction of the words to explain how much I saw and felt in terms of the depth of genuine connection, personal and professional triumphs (as relates to all three individuals), as well as triumph tied to social-justice-gains…
And, I thought of the title for this post weeks before I saw the video…and, it took weeks more before the beginnings of this post began to take shape….I needed the time to work through/sort out my thoughts/fears about “letting it all hang out” (a process that is ongoing)…
However, I immediately knew that I would use the title in writing about personal authenticity and authentic interpersonal connections….and, I loved the imagining that sprung to mind…
Big, burly Paul Bunion–eyes squeezed tightly shut, trying to prevent the joy and gratitude from leaking out…(un)prise-winning arms wrapped around Babe’s massive neck–as he thanks his bovine besty for loving him just as he is.
P.P.S. Context for (depending on your age, memory, tastes, etc.) the trickier wordplay/puns: Aretha Franklin recorded perennial hit, “(You Make Me Feel Like A) Natural Woman” in 1967; speak-bump is my speed-bump pun; squaring means to prepare (as in “squaring for a fight”); peerson is my play on “too look”–and friend, classmate, work-mate etc; a “looky-loo” is an unhelpful, curious onlooker (eg. drawn to the scene of a train wreck); British band, Simply Red had a 1989 cover hit with the 1972 hit, “If You Don’t Know Me By Now (you will never, never, never know me)“; British band, Level 42, had a mid-80’s hit, “(There is) Something About You (Baby, So Right)”; Paul Simon had a 1975 hit, “50 Ways To Leave Your Lover“; a reprieve is a temporary halt to, for example, a severe punishment such as a death sentence…ours is an unending reprieve; when-make-was-believe refers to “Once upon a time”/fairy-tale foundation/first life-lessons we were taught in the interest of playing on/encouraging/celebrating our gush-ability (and, gullibility! 🙂 ); Cheers is a sitcom (1982-1983); everything (g)old is you again is my play on the expression, “everything old is new again; (Solid Gold, that is) is a reference to 1980-1988 dance show, “Solid Gold” (hosted by singer, Dionne Warwick…Whitney Houston’s cousin); Norm is a Cheers character–and expression meaning, “the norm/normal/expected/acceptable; “(Morris Day and) The Time” had hits in the 80’s, and Day was Prince’s rival in 1981 movie, “Purple Rain”; “party hearty” is an expression, and Hardy Boys is a late-1920’s/30’series of children’s mystery books (Nancy Drew’s male counterparts)–and a 1977-1979 TV series (actor, Shawn Cassidy was my first “star” crush…big time!); gnarly is 1980’s Valley Girl speak, and neon clothing was very popular in the 80’s; Medow Lark Lemon was a member of the Harlem Globe Trotters (a comedic, exhibition basketball troupe)–and, in the 80’s, I loved glow-in-the-dark tee-shirts (and the ones that changed (tie-dyed) colours in the sun); originally, “Mr. Bojangles” was a country hit, but I was thinking of Sammy Davis Jr.’s (1970’s) version–and his ties to Vegas…all glitter and unabashedness; paisley is a type of fabric pattern, and Paisley Park is Prince’s record label; “get down with your bad self” is a 1970’s expression (bad meaning “cool”), and, “You Better Work” is a dance hit by Ru Paul—and, you can’t get any more out-there/apologetically you than (among a host of other talents) this model/drag queen, host and author.